Be in your feelings
The best thing to do with fear and sorrow about the attacks on Black people is: admit them, feel them, and get them out. No good will come from denying or ignoring them. Try drawing or writing how you feel, use your phone’s voice recorder to scream or talk it through; anything to get those feelings out.
Being faced with racist acts can bring anger, shame, and hopelessness. Put those feelings into action – join an online cause, volunteer your time to groups who are dedicated to eliminating hate and racism like Black Lives Matter or the NAACP.
Look out for trolls
Avoid social media battles. If you find yourself engaging with someone racist, remember that they do not want to change or understand your point of view. They’re trolls. Their goal is to create drama and spew hate. Let go of those battles.
Don’t watch those videos
Watching violent videos can cause something called secondary trauma. This causes anxiety, sleep problems, irritability and depression. If you have not seen the George Floyd video, don’t watch it or any others like it. Protect your mental health.
Don’t binge on info
Limit the amount of time you spend talking about, reading and listening to racist information. Too much info can make you worried and jittery. A good rule of thumb is to check your social feed for information about the movement for 20 minutes in the morning and evening.
Lean on your tribe
In times of crisis, it’s important to connect with people who love and support you. Whether it’s through Facetime, Zoom, or a phone call, connecting with loved ones brings joy and peace in the midst of chaos.
YESHIVA DAVIS - LICENSED MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPIST, MBA
PRESIDENT & FOUNDER | K&S THERAPEUTIC SERVICES, INC.
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